Last time it went missing, it left for a week. So when we realized yesterday at 8pm that my 6-year-old’s ninja turtle water bottle had begun another solo adventure—left behind after baseball practice—I headed to reclaim it.
The empty baseball diamond felt like the Field of Dreams set—my mind even started replaying the “If you build it . . .” line as I canvassed the outfield. The bottle lay, of course, in the last possible place I could look, but I eventually spotted its neon-green lid.
All alone on a cold metal bench.
Well, not completely alone. You see, on my search-and-rescue route I discovered a handful of baseballs, a tennis ball, a Gatorade bottle, and a purple jacket.
All left behind—the typical behavior of most kids that age.
But as I quietly walked back to my car, my shoes absorbing the evening dew, two thoughts began developing: Read more
Have you ever tried to convince people of their unlimited potential—that inherent greatness you can see lying dormant? But nothing happens until someone or something comes along and—boom!—they realize it?
Which leaves you sitting there, thinking “I’ve been telling you this forever!”
While we’re happy they’re seeing the truth, we may feel a bit hurt that we couldn’t reach them. We may wonder what it was that made everything click. Or maybe we think of it like this—what were we missing or what could we have done better?
When it seems as though we’ve failed, it’s natural to analyze our performance. But in matters of another’s heart, there are two factors to remember: Read more
“How can I be present with my family when my phone is dinging in the background?”
I bet most of us can second this question I received from a recent workshop attendee. It’s that urgent feeling of needing to know who’s texted or whether someone’s emailed back yet or how many people have commented on our latest post.
We can’t turn our phones off, because “what if someone needs us?” but we also can’t get these urges out of our heads until we feed our curiosity what it wants. Kind of like sugar cravings. And when checking our phones is as easy as popping a chocolate square, why wait? Read more
Ever move into a new space seemingly too big to fill, only to find it cluttered as time goes on? Or what about facing two deadlines, one unrealistic and the other generous, yet finishing each on its last allotted day?
It seems that we naturally expand to fill the space we’re given. But why? I found some insight in a surprising place—the science of gas particles. Here’s what I discovered: Read more
Last week on the blog we were swimming in love as we learned how to give and receive compliments. This week we’re trudging through icky waters, where bullying, abrasiveness, and negative misinterpretations lurk.
Though it’s nowhere you want to sightsee, it’s present along each of our journeys. An unavoidable part of life.
It’s supposed to be a good thing, the compliment, so why do we stumble in its presence?
When I began coaching, it’s the one thing I struggled with most. I saw the good in my clients, but it felt awkward trying to craft those feelings into detailed, authentic compliments that didn’t sound scripted, sugary, or meant for a four-year-old.
And being on the other end left me feeling self-conscious, too, like in my coaching academy days when we had to accept praise from our cohort members—face-to-face.
There’s just something very vulnerable about both sides of the process.
So do compliments really complement our lives? Or are we trying too hard, leaving both parties uncomfortable? And does it make a difference what we’re complimenting or how we’re delivering the praise?