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In a Funk? A Solution to This Three-Part Equation

It manifests in my life as overwhelm + mental blocks + self-doubt. And it equals this:

A FUNK.

Mentally, that’s where I’m at as I type. Tuesday, 7:40 pm. Less than 24 hours before I’ll publish this blog.

Waiting until now to start writing makes me nervous, but lately I’ve been struggling to balance life. And it’s my work that I’ve neglected.

See, a big shift’s on its way . . .

Overwhelm

My family and I are moving to Charlotte, NC this summer. And my focus has been turning toward the lengthy path of prepping + packing + tending to emotions, all while still living our full lives here in St. Louis.

That’s a lot.

Mental Blocks

Usually I’ve got a blog topic by Monday, and if I don’t, a random flash of inspiration hits by mid-Tuesday. But this week I’ve got nothing.

Bits of ideas that weren’t quite ripe, but nothing ready to prep and serve to you.

Self-Doubt

Which leads to the last part of the equation—doubting my ability and suitability to do this work. Do I have time for We Bold Souls, given what’s coming at me the next five months? Am I going to have enough free brain space to create good stuff? Am I really the right person for the job?

So put those three parts—overwhelm, mental blocks, self-doubt—together and you get a funk. And since I’m still waiting for that inspirational lightning bolt, I’m concluding that dealing with the blues is what I’m meant to write about.

The Solution

So here goes . . .

If I view this funk through my present-and-grateful filter, this is what I see:

  • Present

I’m feeling defeated because I don’t know how I’ll do everything.

  • Grateful

But I’m grateful that when I’m feeling this way, life ironically slows down a bit. When it’s nearly impossible to do it all–and stay sane and healthy–I’m free to release the idea that I can do it all.

And, instead, my mind naturally lands on the present. On what I’m doing right now, on what I can do.

I’m still moving forward, but it’s more peaceful, intentional progress not driven by unrealistic finish lines.

So to help keep this present-and-grateful filter in place, I scanned my Instagram favorites file for inspiration. Two photos of poem excerpts brought it all home for me:

From Mary Oliver’s poem “I Worried,”

. . . Finally I saw that worrying had come to nothing.

And gave it up. And took my old body

and went out into the morning,

and sang.1

And from author Iain Thomas in I Wrote This For You: 2007-2017,

And every day, the world will drag you by the hand, yelling, “This is important! . . . You need to worry about this! And this! And this!” And each day, it’s up to you to yank your hand back, put it on your heart and say, “No, this is what’s important.”2


We all feel low sometimes, but funky town isn’t designed to be a forever home. So however the “funk equation” manifests in your life, feel all the feelings, learn from the tough lessons, and boldly keep going.

You’ll find me trekking right beside you . . .

(Please note that this blog post isn’t referring to clinical depression or cases in which professional help and/or medication may be needed.)


What are the parts of your “funk equation” and what’s guided you out of it? Help others by sharing your struggles or successes below!


References:

1 Quote verified at https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/1258096-i-worried-i-worried-a-lot-will-the-garden-grow

2 Quote verified at https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/997789-and-every-day-the-world-will-drag-you-by-the

6 comments

  1. Terry says:

    I have started my own mantra, if you will. When I start worrying about this or that, I’ve started to tell myself, “It will be ok; it will all work out!” I have noticed that everything really does have a way of working itself out. It always does! And nothing has ever turned out as bad as my worrying mind imagines it could. Good luck these next few months! If you need a helping hand, I have one.

    • weboldsouls says:

      Thanks, Terry, for the offer of help—-I’m going to need it! And I love your mantra because it really is so true 🙂

  2. Maria Cecilia says:

    ‘Let me take you to funky town’…

    I would never have thought of the ‘funk equation’ as part of my life’s existence…yet upon reading this blog, I suddenly realize that I am in such a situation…yes, a few days ago I had that feeling of ‘funk’…

    …fear + ‘feeling frozen in time’ + helpless…

    This week, I underwent a nerve induction test called electromyography (EMG), a diagnostic test to evaluate the health of my muscle tissues as well as the motor neurons of both of my hands/arms…and the outcome made me cry (inside)…I was too proud to cry in front of my neurologist and husband…or you could say that ‘fear’ consumed me…and so I had a moment of ‘feeling frozen in time’ as the results were explained to me and before the ‘verdict’ was handed…and when the words ‘immediate surgery is required’…I just do not know what to think…I rely heavily on the use of my hands…writing…painting…gardening…cooking…playing musical instruments…my hands are a part of my daily life…sometimes I think it is lame of me to think of that as if I am the only one relying on their hands to exist…but for me to be faced with such a predicament, I felt ‘helpless’…

    Yet in the end, it is always the words of my husband that takes me back on how grateful I am…how he has always been there for me…that I will not face this alone…and he has always done that…I always have that momentary relapse of ‘defeat’…only to be replaced with ‘I will get over this hurdle’…again, ‘with a wink and a smile’!

    Infanta Maria Cecilia Victoria
    ~ A Creative Journey Through Life ~

    • weboldsouls says:

      Oh Maria, you must be one of the bravest people ever! I’m so inspired by the way you approach struggles and so grateful that you continue to share your authentic journey with me and our readers. Sending prayers for another successful surgery!

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